Love is not just a fall, it’s deliberate.
Stop before you fall in love. Wait, pray, take your time. After that, it’s almost too late for reason.
I was miffed, shooketh, bewildered by this advice. It wasn’t the first time I’d heard it, but it was the first time I’d heard it. It meant there was an element of falling in love that I could direct.
As someone who loves love, who daydreams of someone safe and admirable coming to whisk me away, my head is often in la-la land. What else is there but love in the end?
But today, was one of those days that we…
Your perspective, outlook, expectations, and boundaries changed.
You think that your life miraculously got better, but the truth is, life runs on monotonous cycles offering the good with the bad to everyone.
Our environment affects how much good we’re able to see or pull out of life.
Your life didn’t suddenly get better, you did.
Your perspective, outlook, expectations, and boundaries changed.
Before you saw limited options, now you create opportunity.
You’ve taken time to discover yourself, in part voluntarily, and in part through forced life experiences.
The job you hated 10 years ago is a piece of cake compared to what you’re doing now.
The relationship…
Some tips to keep in mind.
You’re not alone if you feel a spell-binding desire to return to the comforting yield of the soil.
You’re not alone if you feel called out of the city and into the country.
You’re not alone if you want to nourish your body with the fruit of your hands.
The call is bigger than you. There’s a shift in the world, you can feel it. It’s a healing of the nation.
This matters because women are nature and nurture. You’re wired to know the decisions you need to make to thrive. …
The people that see, know your worth
Maybe you’re still waiting because not all eyes have been trained to see you.
God has hidden you behind the cleft of the rock with his hand.
You weren’t abandoned, you weren’t forgotten. You aren’t unworthy, you aren’t rejected.
Even with eyes closed, they could feel your light beneath darkened eyelids. They hated you, and wanted to be with you at the same time.
You were a heat they never felt before, you harassed their demons, made them uncomfortable. In your presence, they had to look at themselves and they hated what they saw. …
Obsessing about the outcome is our attempt to control and ease anticipated pain.
We fear being happy. What we fear even more is having our happiness taken away.
We live in constant terror of what if, never allowing ourselves to immerse in what is.
We’ve heard the answer to ‘living in the present’ is letting go of attachment, but that sounds like a mystical far-off task. It’s a little easier to let go of our attachment to material possessions, but it’s harder to let go of attachment to people.
Impactful people become part of our energetic makeup. They circulate through our bodies and cycle through our hearts and mind until we let them…
Stressful events inspire you to change your appearance
Leave Britney alone.
In 2007, Britney Spears walked into a salon and shaved her head. It’s said that she suffered a mental breakdown after being denied access to her children.
This was her outcry.
Rebecca Newman, a Philadelphia-based psychotherapist says, “When we’re going through a period of transition that is particularly painful we tend to make decisions that provide immediate relief”. We want to free ourselves from intense emotions. Newman says that changing our physical appearance can feel like shedding a layer of skin which makes us feel better.
It’s normal to go through physical change after stressful experiences. It’s…
How to navigate shame and take control of your financial goals
Click, a video from the Dave Ramsey show popped up on my YouTube recommendations, My family is shaming me for not giving them money. Okkuurrrr.
Dave Ramsey is a controversial financial advisor that believes in living debt-free, period.
He helps people reach financial freedom through 7 baby steps.
This caller had reached baby step 2- she and her husband were finally debt-free. They had initially told their family about their financial freedom journey but now that they were debt-free her family was shaming her for not giving them money.
The agony in her voice was heart-wrenching.
The situation left her…
Creating the life you want is closer than you think.
You never thought life would’ve taken you in this direction.
You always thought you were a smart girl with a head on your shoulder.
Sure, you love to have fun. Dance a little, shake your hips. Even get wild, but you’ve mostly been a responsible, multifaceted woman.
You were naive. Maybe you got into a relationship that you thought was love. Maybe you derailed your whole life in pursuit of it. Now it’s left you battered, broken, and just a shell of a person you once were.
Maybe you were blindsided by sickness or disability that’s left you much more…
Sometimes the strongest version is also the darkest. When you’re aware of both you become empowered.
I said what I said.
It’s okay to ooze confidence. It’s okay to stop smiling when you don’t feel like it, stop laughing at those uncomfortable jokes. Look them up and down, hold your head up, and strut away. Your side-eye alone should say, you wouldn’t dare.
You’ve got to reach into your “I could never do that” audacity and let her fight for you.
Look in the mirror and shatter everything you’re pretending to be. Unleash the over-the-top, picky, judgmental, arrogant, delusional, type A, passionate, vulnerable woman you’re ashamed of.
It’s not about faking it. You don’t have to…
A poem about slowly falling apart or maybe coming together.
Everybody wants a piece of me.
They want my smile. They want my laughter. They want my company. They want my advice. They want my pussy. They want my ass. They want my sex. They want my hard work. They want my cooperation. They want my words. They want my obedience. They want me happy.
They want me.
Yet nobody wants me at all.
Not me.
They don’t want my coldness. They don’t want my moody. They don’t want my intensity. They don’t want my love. They don’t want my wild. They don’t want my passion. They don’t want my…
