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I write for women who are ready to make big leaps in life. www.arleneambrose.ca
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We think we’ve come so far. We think we’ve evolved, and while we’ve made technological advancements, we’ve only made life more comfortable for ourselves, inadvertently weakening our resilience. We’ve paralyzed our survival instincts, increasing our sensitivity and political correctness.

You might feel hopeless against fear, anxiety, and circumstances out of…


Have you ever fantasized about being a dominatrix? Not only for sexual gratification but power? Maybe you take a longer time to process your feelings. You think about the perfect comeback only after the person is long gone. Perhaps you feel unheard or misunderstood. Maybe you’d just like your boyfriend…


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They like to believe that people can change for the better. They understand and still empathize when others hurt them. Softhearted people feel the weight of the world in their hearts. They smile, but you notice the sadness in their eyes. Sometimes they become so overwhelmed with unsorted emotions that…


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You start off thinking maybe this time will be different. Your feelings caught you off guard, so naturally, this must be love. You read somewhere that this is how it’s supposed to happen. Your emotions consume you, but in the end, you’re left heartbroken.

You keep falling in love with…


You’re attracted to relationships that require fighting. You think you have to do something to receive love. You think you have to overcome a crisis and suffer. These thoughts are struggle-love.

You believe this is how relationships should be because it’s what you’ve always known. …


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Your anxiety is a warning sign that your mind is trying to protect you from something you think is a threat. It’s usually something you care about but have coded as a source of fear instead of love.

It starts with obsessive thoughts. You’re thinking about the outcome. What if…


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You aren’t supposed to fit in. You have a thousand ideas in your head but can’t seem to choose one — and you’re not sure you want to.

You have various skills. You don’t want to sound like you’re bragging, but you’re pretty good at each of them.

Instead of…


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You’re avoiding what you need to do. You’re waiting until the last minute, hoping that something will change. This behavior is procrastination.

Procrastination comes from loving the rush of learning but not the reality of taking steps to get there. You’re afraid to fail. Somewhere in your programming, a loved…


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The loss that I’ve endured is overwhelming. I’ve shed tears over my sorrow. I’ve grieved for, with, and about my friends, lovers and family. Sometimes individually. Sometimes at the same time.

Death and defeat have stolen my joy. They never gave me a chance to recover before striking again. Sometimes…


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Keeping an open heart puts you in a vulnerable position. However, it’s the only way to love fully. An open heart is receptive, expansive, and forgiving. It means resisting the urge to build up your walls, resent, and turn to bitterness. It has nothing to do with the other person…

Arlene Ambrose

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