Obsessing about the outcome is our attempt to control and ease anticipated pain.
We fear being happy. What we fear even more is having our happiness taken away.
We live in constant terror of what if, never allowing ourselves to immerse in what is.
We’ve heard the answer to ‘living in the present’ is letting go of attachment, but that sounds like a mystical far-off task. It’s a little easier to let go of our attachment to material possessions, but it’s harder to let go of attachment to people.
Impactful people become part of our energetic makeup. They circulate through our bodies and cycle through our hearts and mind until we let them…
Stressful events inspire you to change your appearance
Leave Britney alone.
In 2007, Britney Spears walked into a salon and shaved her head. It’s said that she suffered a mental breakdown after being denied access to her children.
This was her outcry.
Rebecca Newman, a Philadelphia-based psychotherapist says, “When we’re going through a period of transition that is particularly painful we tend to make decisions that provide immediate relief”. We want to free ourselves from intense emotions. Newman says that changing our physical appearance can feel like shedding a layer of skin which makes us feel better.
It’s normal to go through physical change after stressful experiences. It’s…
How to navigate shame and take control of your financial goals
Click, a video from the Dave Ramsey show popped up on my YouTube recommendations, My family is shaming me for not giving them money. Okkuurrrr.
Dave Ramsey is a controversial financial advisor that believes in living debt-free, period.
He helps people reach financial freedom through 7 baby steps.
This caller had reached baby step 2- she and her husband were finally debt-free. They had initially told their family about their financial freedom journey but now that they were debt-free her family was shaming her for not giving them money.
The agony in her voice was heart-wrenching.
The situation left her…
Creating the life you want is closer than you think.
You never thought life would’ve taken you in this direction.
You always thought you were a smart girl with a head on your shoulder.
Sure, you love to have fun. Dance a little, shake your hips. Even get wild, but you’ve mostly been a responsible, multifaceted woman.
You were naive. Maybe you got into a relationship that you thought was love. Maybe you derailed your whole life in pursuit of it. Now it’s left you battered, broken, and just a shell of a person you once were.
Maybe you were blindsided by sickness or disability that’s left you much more…
Sometimes the strongest version is also the darkest. When you’re aware of both you become empowered.
I said what I said.
It’s okay to ooze confidence. It’s okay to stop smiling when you don’t feel like it, stop laughing at those uncomfortable jokes. Look them up and down, hold your head up, and strut away. Your side-eye alone should say, you wouldn’t dare.
You’ve got to reach into your “I could never do that” audacity and let her fight for you.
Look in the mirror and shatter everything you’re pretending to be. Unleash the over-the-top, picky, judgmental, arrogant, delusional, type A, passionate, vulnerable woman you’re ashamed of.
It’s not about faking it. You don’t have to…
A poem about slowly falling apart or maybe coming together.
Everybody wants a piece of me.
They want my smile. They want my laughter. They want my company. They want my advice. They want my pussy. They want my ass. They want my sex. They want my hard work. They want my cooperation. They want my words. They want my obedience. They want me happy.
They want me.
Yet nobody wants me at all.
Not me.
They don’t want my coldness. They don’t want my moody. They don’t want my intensity. They don’t want my love. They don’t want my wild. They don’t want my passion. They don’t want my…
Beliefs aren’t set in stone. You have the power to choose, change, or reject them. Beliefs become our reality.
You’ve heard time and time again that nice girls finish last in society.
Society normalizes a plethora of habits that don’t make any sense: debt, foods that make you sick, and only two weeks vacation- ugh.
It becomes discouraging to stand your ground when everyone seems to hold some contempt toward how you show up.
People say nice girls finish last because they think you’re weak, that you live in a place of naivety, and victimhood. I mean, not saying you haven’t been there, but now you’re over it.
You don’t have to stop being a nice girl. …
Ever get into a bad mood for no reason? Yeah, me too.
I used to beat myself up about it. My life is great. I don’t have much to complain about, so what’s the problem? Anyone who knows what bad moods are like knows how this story ends: instead of psyching myself out of the bad mood, I’d just end up feeling guilty for not being able to power through it.
Then something happened. I first noticed it because I realized that after some time going through a low mood I’d feel perfectly fine. This made me think that maybe…
Sleep paralysis, narcolepsy, or demons-It’s worked 100 percent of the time
It jumped on my chest and started choking me.
Apparently, it’s what people call sleep paralysis, but coming from a Christian household I’ve always known it as demonic attacks.
I’m definitely a dreamer. Extremely stressful situations and warnings in my life show up in symbolism through my dreams.
I rarely dream- that I can remember- of anything just for fun. Throw in a sex dream why don’t you? Go ahead. Make my day.
But, no. They’re usually in the form of a nightmare or warning. …
Being apart from each other is agony- It’s also tough to have a ‘bubble’ that destroys your good energy.
You’re allowed to distance yourself from people you love. It seems counter-intuitive. It sends a shock to the system.
Why would anyone want to distance themselves from someone they love?
Creating distance from someone who’s made your life a living hell seems reasonable, but someone you love? Nah.
It takes a heart that can hold vast amounts of sadness yet still see hope in valuing something more. It takes courage to walk away. It’s sometimes, the bravest thing a person can do.
It’s not a failure. It’s listening to your intuition.
I’m not advocating for cutting off connections at a…
