One day, you grew up. You started making your own decisions and conflict started spilling through the cracks. — Your parents did their best with what they knew-at least some of them-but they didn’t know everything. One of your parents was living in survival mode while the other was raining terror on your lives. Or maybe it was more subtle. Your parents weren’t alcoholics. You got an occasional spanking…

If you want peace in your life, you must learn to let go of other people’s expectations of you. — If you want peace in your life, you must learn to let go. If you want peace in your life, you must learn to let go of other people’s expectations of you. You must learn to focus on the values that matter most. …

Please take care before you read on. If you’ve experienced physical, sexual, or emotional abuse in an intimate relationship, you’ve experienced trauma. You may react significantly differently from those who’ve experienced other types of traumatic situations. Some people shut out or numb the abusive memories, but you may continue to…

We’re working hard to actualize our dreams, mostly so we can disappear. — Taking care of yourself is the way forward. Life has been a whirlwind lately. If you don’t ground yourself by staying connected to the present moment, if you don’t take control of your thoughts and emotions, you’ll get lost in the debris. Life has been a whirlwind lately. Now isn’t…

Treating yourself kindly is about dispelling shame and saying, “I’m not perfect. I’m still learning, yet still deserve respect.” — The answer to your questions is, “ because you don’t love yourself, though you’re worthy.” I used to wonder why it seemed like the people in my life weren’t really seeing me. They would seem interested for a moment, then disappear. They disregarded my desires and invalidated my needs.

You tell yourself you can’t be happy unless you get the next life goal checked off your list. What you don’t realize is that this list never ends. This obsession with your life keeps you from living it. — You say you’re behind in life, ruminating on where you should be instead of focusing on where you are now keeps you stuck. You cannot change the past, and you cannot predict the future, but you can make every effort to guide it in the direction you want to go.

You can connect with a stranger in a few minutes. Yet be unable to connect with someone you’ve known for years — You can connect with a stranger in a few minutes. Yet be unable to connect with someone you’ve known for years. Connecting is a sense of being open and available to another person, and they with you. …

Have you ever stepped back and said, “Wow, look at how far I’ve come”? And I don’t mean in a hurried, dismissive way, but in a way that wrenches your gut, drops you to your knees, and breaks down the pain? — This moment seems impossible. You’re in the thick of your anxieties and don’t know where a solution will come from. Frankly, some days you don’t know how you’ll make it. This is your reminder that you’ve survived 100% of the moments you thought you’d never get through.

Commitment is deciding to choose each other time and time again. — Love is all we need, and in theory, this is correct. In an ideal world, love would embody the traits listed below. However, we tend to associate love with feelings rather than principles. The truth is, loving your partner despite their flaws and shortcomings isn’t always a bed of roses…