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You’ll Keep Missing Red Flags Until You’re Able To Identify Green Ones.
It’s hard to spot red flags when you think you’re in love.
Have you ever had directions explained to you something like this? “if you see the big pink building, then you know you’re going the right way.”
The person providing the direction just wants to make sure you stay on track. They use markers; like identifying a building to do this. It’s also helpful to have markers when dealing with relationships.
Red flags are a type of marker that helps us spot negative behavior. They cause feelings of danger or unease. They can also happen as a result of manipulation or control.
Green flags are a type of marker that helps us spot positive behaviors. They also help to identify traits we want to see more of in ourselves.
We still miss red flags, no matter how much we’re taught to spot them. Red flags can feel safe, comfortable, and familiar.
Being able to identify red flags is not enough in relationships.
It’s hard to spot red flags when you think you’re in love.
Red flags tell us to stop or proceed with caution. We need a signal that tells us, “move forward”.
